Depression is a three-fold illness, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's Eve. Oh, and then Valentine's Day, which they spring on you just as you breathe a sigh of relief that you've lived through another barrage of cheerfulness and over-eating and senseless shopping.
Read MoreThank God we can't see into the future. If you ever got even a tiny whiff of what was going to happen you would just stay home, never ever leave the house, get in bed and lock the door, and that would be it. Then though, what about the earthquake that might leave you buried under a pile of rubble....you and your cats all together, taking your final breaths. These ideas are where my imagination takes me, so being me is not easy. It's merciful that we are all left wondering 'What will happen?' Of course good things happen too...surprising moments of hilarity and even beauty, but I never think of those possibilities because I don't want to be disappointed if they don't come along.
Read MoreI have a theory about falling in love. Maybe you know this already. It's a trick designed to hook you into resolving some deep childhood issue...usually with a parent. You fall in love with the man who's just like your inattentive father, or your overly protective mother. All you know is that he makes you feel like magic. Finally you are complete.
Read MoreI do this thing where I like to pigeon-hole my friends into categories. It makes me feel somehow in charge of all these relationships. There's Jill, my most brilliant friend. Whenever I mention her I say 'Oh, she is brilliant.' This is to people who haven't met Jill. The ones who've met her already know, it's so obvious.
Read MoreIn any given lifetime we probably get to have deep friendships with only a few people. I've always had plenty of friends and could be out every night of the week if I wanted to, but real intimacy is rare for me, and maybe for everyone! I'm friends with this odd character I met in the neighborhood.
Read MoreDon't go. This is the best piece of wisdom that I could ever offer anyone. If you're lonely and long for a relationship get a cat (or 2). Let me tell you about the last time I went on a real 'date'.
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